Posts in Parenthood
HACKS FOR HANDLING KIDS, CONSUMERISM & CHRISTMAS

It’s officially November, so I thought I’d get in early and start the conversation about Christmas and kids and all the stuff that comes with that. I think it’s worth taking just a little time now before the rush comes in to figure out how we can handle consumerism with our kids and family at this time of year.  

Raising kids that are not sucked into the consumeristic way our society is postured is a big deal to me and as I delivered my ‘Eco Family Living’ online course in September, I was aware of how many of the participants really wanted to dig into this issue too. How do we keep our kids from having too much unnecessary stuff without feeling like we are depriving them? How do we align our values to these gift-giving times of the year when so much feels out of our immediate control?

Firstly, I want you to know that it is possible. It’s possible to be a conscious consumer, to consider the impact of your purchases on people and planet and still have a magical time of gift-giving and joy with your family.  

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WOMANHOOD + TAKING UP SPACE

I wish I didn't have to write this post but I do. I wish I didn't have to consider the implications that come with pursuing that which makes you come alive with any kind of gusto but I do. I do because it seems like everywhere I turn, women are worried about taking up space. Worried that they are coming across as pushy; worried that they are seen as overly-confident; worried that if they go full throttle in their business and hobbies that they will be perceived as aggressive or salesy or up themselves or too much.

I'm kind of tired of it. 

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5 THINGS WE'VE LEARNED FROM GETTING RID OF OUR T.V.

It's been well over a year now since that fateful day when I arrived home from having coffee with a friend to find an empty lonesome corner of our living room where our T.V. used to live.  

We had talked about getting rid of our T.V. for a while, but Dave took the bull by the horns one afternoon and dumped it in the basement for selling. At first I was a bit like "Oooookaaaaayyy....I'm on boaaaarrrrrd..." - the words leaving my mouth in slow motion so to try and give my head time to be convinced it was a good idea. We had a busy 4 year old and another baby on the way. How would I put in nine months of a maternity leave without being able to binge-watch something on the sofa while endlessly breastfeeding? What would I use as bait to give Levi some down time when I needed to see to the baby? It wasn't something I was totally sure was going to work for us, but I felt like it would only be fair to give it a try.

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THREE APPROACHES FOR POSITIVE, RESPECTFUL PARENTING (WHEN PARENTING IS HARD)

When it comes to parenting, we are mostly winging it. Every day of this job/privilege where we have to keep these tinies alive and make sure they grow up to be decent humans is a learning curve. Every day we are faced with new challenges that we hadn't thought about how we would handle and conversations that we are in over our head with. "Mummy, when you're dead are you just lying in the ground dead?".... Yeah. That stuff. 

The last six years of parenting has been both but a tiny portion of life and a steep time of growth.  We have unlearned a heap of things that we thought we were supposed to do and be as parents and that process has been difficult and freeing all at the same time. I write what I'm about to write here not as an expert, but as a normal parent that is figuring it out daily - drinking in grace and compassion for myself as we navigate these unchartered territories for our own family.  It is relentless and rewarding. It is hard. 

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DECIDING ON AN ECO PRAM

When it came to buying baby stuff for Ada, we were really focused on keeping things simple.  Most of the things we had from Levi's baby days had already found a new home or were donated and so almost five years later we were starting from scratch.  Most of the big stuff we tried to find second-hand, including our pram.  I remember feeling so overwhelmed by buggies and travel systems this time around.  The world of prams was a very different one now from 2011 and the amount of choice, add-ons and online reviews was immense and confusing. What did I really need?! It all felt too much so we settled on one from gumtree that looked really pretty but...

It took our trip to Italy for me to finally surrender that we had made the wrong choice of pram. Sure it was pretty, but it just didn't have the stamina for the amount of walking that we were doing. We had the tires blow out on us a couple of (really inconvenient) times over the two weeks we were away and had to scurry to local Italian bicycle shops to get them patched and fixed. Thank goodness for baby-wearing, even if it was 40 degree heat!  Lesson learned.  Sometimes second-hand items work out, and sometimes they don't. We needed a pram to be reliable as my back-to-work date was looming and we were leaving Ada in the trusty hands of grandparents who would be taking her out and about for walks all the time.  

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FOUR PILLARS FOR THE YEAR AHEAD

My first blog post of 2017! This month, usually the slowest and most dreaded of the year, hasn't really felt like that at all round here.  Although I have been a bit quiet on the blog front, I have been squirrelling away behind the scenes writing my first ever e-guide 'A Simpler Start To The Year' and putting some foundational priorities in place for the year ahead.

I wanted to share with you some of these things - put them in writing, almost as a form of accountability to myself.  I mentioned in the e-guide that I there are certain pillars in my life that when I make sure that they are upheld, they sustain me and help me keep my priorities in check. Being outside with my family, doing a job that has an impact, spending time with friends that know me and are for me, and making time for creative pursuits are the main four. So, right at the outset of the year I have tried to mark down some of the ways I am putting things in place to try and keep these pillars steady throughout the year.

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A SIMPLER START TO THE YEAR

You'll notice that my website has had a bit of a make over recently that I'm really excited about and proud of (I managed to switch my whole site over to a new host and create the new layout myself which is a MASSIVE feat for me)! I have been wanting to shake things up with my writing and blog stuff for a while and finally took the plunge last month to create a site where all of the things I am intending to work on in the year ahead made more sense (big thanks to Ben Connolly from Angel & Anchor for the new look branding).  You'll see the blog remains, but I've also put a spot up here for info on Assembly Gatherings - something that I'm excited to keep going on a seasonal basis - and there will also be a new feature added soon that will allow you to engage with some online resources that I'm creating.  

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Behind & Ahead (...and a little project to come)

I'm sitting here in my living room, the baby asleep upstairs after an epic 2-hourly wakeful night and the sun is gloriously streaming in through the bay window. Dave and Levi are out doing messages - taking rubbish to the dump, dropping stuff off at the Charity Shop from the first half of our post-Christmas epic clear out - and I am thinking about the year that is drawing to a close and the anticipation of the one ahead.

This year gave us Ada.  Our beautiful girl who is growing like a weed, manoeuvring around the furniture, cutting teeth like a mad thing and whose first year is whizzing by so fast, proving once again to me that time stands still for no one.  

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